Reflection on Online Dating: Hindsight
11 AprHindsight
For me, every time after I do something I gain a lot of reflection and self discovery. For this reason, I pushed myself to use the online dating as a tool to get over my issues.
I pretty much can say that I can ALMOST train anyone to be successful at online dating if they want to keep an open mind because it is definitely NOT the same as regular dating, but also the same.
The hugest difference for me was the mental fucking it did because there is a high level of uncertainty since you never experienced the person LIVE. There are a lot of “what ifs.”
Each time I had to go meet the person I was having panic attacks, so I decided not to do online dating for a while now. It was way to nerve wracking, but I gained an extremely large amount of insight into the online process and dating in general.
So far I am 8 for 8 with meeting guys and each time to be honest after I screened them I’d say they are all great guys and people.
SO I have deactivated my account, but before then there were still people that talked to me. I gave them my skype so they wouldn’t be able to trace me back. Precautions!
I realized never say never, so who knows if I will decide to use it again. I will say it has definitely changed me for the better with really realizing that I did have issues in dealing with the opposite sex. I still need to overcome and tackle them, but the first step is recognizing it. Maybe when I’m in my late 20’s, which is not that far away.
On the site, there are definitely all kinds of people as with the real world. Nothing changes in that sense. The hard part is weeding, but I guess that goes with meeting someone in a real life situation as well.
With my next posts, I’m going to go through all the lessons I gained from it and how to be successful with online dating!
Until then!
Ciao!
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